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BDSM for Dominants and submissives

Jul 102019

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For various reasons, people choose a BDSM lifestyle. It might attract somebody because of a book, a magazine, a film, a friend heard about it, etc. To experiment with command, most people like BDSM. A Mistress as a Master enjoys being in charge, having control over others and having authority over them.

Why do submissives like this lifestyle?

It can be very interesting to have control over your life or your body removed for a submissive. Whatever the safe word you can use to end the scene, the uncertainty about what will be done to you ; still has a psychological effect.

It is a very "free" experience to surrender control to another individual while accountability is often stressful. By giving up liberty, a submissive may feel "liberated" from accountability and thus freed, if only for a time, from the stress it entails.

Why is this lifestyle like for Dominants (alpha)? 

Having control over the life or body of another person can feel very powerful. It can be very interesting to know that you now have authority over someone else, and not only voluntarily but voluntarily submit to your will.

So now that we established what the Dominant wants and what the submissive needs, let's talk about TRUST. For a submissive, being able to Trust someone so deeply that you are willing to literally put your life in their hands is very romantic. For a Dominant, having someone in your life who is willing to give you that kind of Trust can be profoundly moving.

Another major element of BDSM is Fantasy. We call it role-play; one is in authority, the other is impotent. Probably the most prevalent types of BDSM out there are fantasy and role-play because it has such an apparent attraction. Even individuals shocked by bondage and D/s can generally see in the bedroom the attraction of role-play.

Last but not least, there is the remaining element of BDSM ; the pleasure of inflicting or suffering (frequently known as S&M). It performs BDSM's control elements as well as fantasy elements. A BDSM scene often involves the submissive being "punished" for some reason by the Mistress / Master and may also require a fantasy to justify it.

 

 

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